goodbye-fatgirl:

The way we see ourselves reflects the choices we make in life. Who we date, the opportunities we take, the clothes we wear and who we are. 

I used to see myself as fat. That was the only word that mattered to me and I let it define me. I never thought anyone would want to date me or if I was flirting with guys in clubs I would get really drunk and try and gain some of the confidence i was lacking when I was sober. I didn’t do things if I had to show my body, I would avoid being in photos or talking about shopping. Most of the places that my friends got their clothes didn’t go up to my size. I was unhappy. I didn’t like who I saw in the mirror. I never really imagined my future being bright, unless I lost a lot of weight. 

That is not true. You don’t have to loose weight or look a certain way to be happy.

Since I started my weightloss journey I have learnt so much. My weight has fluctuated a lot in the past few years and I’m still not the size I want to be, but that’s okay. When I look at myself I see a beautiful, intelligent, strong, funny person. Because you are more than your weight. You are a person, with a mind and a smile that could brighten someones day. I am continuing my fitness journey but for a different set of reasons. I am learning to love my body and look after it. 

Remember that you set your own standards, we accept what we think we deserve. You deserve the best. You deserve to find someone who will make you a better you, who will challenge you and love you unconditionally because they will love the person that you are not the amount that you weigh. You also don’t need to be with someone, or lose that extra pound or run a marathon to be happy. Doing all those are great and becoming a heather, fitter person is a wonderful achievement. But do not let it take over your life. It’s not worth it. Don’t count every calorie and follow thinspo blogs looking at unattainable photos. I reblog photos that I like or that motivate me but I don’t compare myself. We are all on our own journey and life is hard. 

I just want you all to know how important you are. You should aim high because you think you are worth it. Not for any other reason. You are more than fat or skinny or fit you are a wonderful dancer, a romantic, a loyal friend, a coffee lover, a cat cuddler, a person. A person who should know how lucky somebody is to have you as a friend, or a boyfriend or girlfriend or employee. 

I wish I had someone to tell me this when I first joined tumblr, so I want to be that person for anyone who reads this or needs reminding. You decide how much you are worth, set your sights high and love who you are. 

rupsidaisy:

gay8:

fuck attractive people

that’s the plan